Category: bottoming

Positive Action for consent

Positive Action for consent or PAC is an extension of the safety check myself and WykD_Dave have in place for when we play, I am sure there are many other who do similar checks during play. I wanted to write a bit more on it, particularly in relation to consent during play. Having a positive action for…


Preparing for Rope

The success of your rope experience as a bottom is often dependent on your frame of mind, how you are feeling and how open you are to the experience. This is easier said than done at times. There are techniques you can use to assist with this and you might already do them. Just like…


Connection

Connection is the new buzzword in the rope community at the moment, all the cool kids are using it. Sometimes taught as Ichinawa, a technique which is often taught with one rope to simplify things and break them down, but can be applied to all bondage. What is connective rope? Well, it’s doing rope with…


Rope Bondage References

References are a valuable tool for keeping you informed, aware and safe when considering playing with others. I cannot recommend getting references enough, although they are often overlooked and not used enough when considering tying with new people. I think that rope tops should vet bottoms and bottoms should vet tops before playing, shooting, and…


Evaluating Your Rigger

Before you evaluate your rigger you need to stop and evaluate yourself. You are what will keep you safe, ultimately you can only rely on yourself. Know your body’s limits. You do not have to be an experience rope bottom to know this. When you are faced with your limit you will recognise it, be…


Being too Tolerant

With the increase and interest in rope bondage, we are seeing an increase in the amount of accidents and nerve damages. I think this is mostly because riggers are not trying well and not taking care or knowledge of placement on the individual they are tying. It is shocking the amount of people who take…


What Do I Get From Rope?

I have recently been asked to write a few paragraphs about why I love rope and what I get from it. I know I have written similar writing before but I think it is always good to reflect, so here is a new one on rope and what I get from it. Connection and Communication…


A Few Thoughts on Rope

The essence of rope for me is the connections I make with the person tying me. Combining togetherness, trust, harmony, submission, love, allowing the rope to reach all of these forces and bring us together, closer in a fierce embrace. This can be (for me) in a caressing soft embrace with some soft sensual rope, releasing endorphins in…


My Rope Bottoming Essential Kit

There are quite a few post around the various forums regarding keeping a rope bottom bag and what people would keep in it, while I don’t specifically have one, when at events etc. I do have certain essentials I like to have with me. Bio Oil – Particularly if I am performing, it helps SO…


Fly before you can tie?

It seems those learning rope often want to rush straight to suspension, instead of taking the time to learn fundamentals, learn to read people or their partner in rope and acquire the skills to tie.  Unfortunately missing the real point of rope in their aim to suspend as quick as they can often without any…