Positive Action for consent

Positive Action for consent or PAC is an extension of the safety check myself and WykD_Dave have in place for when we play, I am sure there are many other who do similar checks during play. I wanted to write a bit more on it, particularly in relation to consent during play. Having a positive action for…


All good riggers get tied up

A point I work hard to deliver in my rope bottoming classes is that the bondage experience will be different for everyone and that this is okay. So many of us make judgements of self worth based on how much we can achieve compared to other rope bottoms. There seems to be a growing expectation…


Preparing for Rope

The success of your rope experience as a bottom is often dependent on your frame of mind, how you are feeling and how open you are to the experience. This is easier said than done at times. There are techniques you can use to assist with this and you might already do them. Just like…


Connection

Connection is the new buzzword in the rope community at the moment, all the cool kids are using it. Sometimes taught as Ichinawa, a technique which is often taught with one rope to simplify things and break them down, but can be applied to all bondage. What is connective rope? Well, it’s doing rope with…


Embracing Your Emotions: All of Your Emotions

It can be easy to embrace the good and reject the bad in all aspects of life, this is especially true with intimacy and sexual experiences. Although acknowledging the bad can lead to some powerful self awareness and recognition, it can be difficult to confront these emotions. Rope can be meditative at times, bring peace…


Rope Bondage References

References are a valuable tool for keeping you informed, aware and safe when considering playing with others. I cannot recommend getting references enough, although they are often overlooked and not used enough when considering tying with new people. I think that rope tops should vet bottoms and bottoms should vet tops before playing, shooting, and…


Mentors: The Good and the Bad.

A mentor is someone experienced who can share their knowledge and guide the development of another less experienced person. In terms of rope, I really feel there is not much benefit in rope tops mentoring rope bottoms, there may be some but if a rope bottom is looking to learn, develop and grow with a…


Evaluating Your Rigger

Before you evaluate your rigger you need to stop and evaluate yourself. You are what will keep you safe, ultimately you can only rely on yourself. Know your body’s limits. You do not have to be an experience rope bottom to know this. When you are faced with your limit you will recognise it, be…


Being too Tolerant

With the increase and interest in rope bondage, we are seeing an increase in the amount of accidents and nerve damages. I think this is mostly because riggers are not trying well and not taking care or knowledge of placement on the individual they are tying. It is shocking the amount of people who take…


What Do I Get From Rope?

I have recently been asked to write a few paragraphs about why I love rope and what I get from it. I know I have written similar writing before but I think it is always good to reflect, so here is a new one on rope and what I get from it. Connection and Communication…